Nothing in the world causes so much misery as uncertainty does
– Martin Luther King
Uncertainty is absolutely okay. I have to repeat this to myself again and again when I feel anxious or fearful over my uncertain thoughts of the future or the past. Although it is natural to think into and observe what is going on around us, especially in times likes these, I wish to remind anyone feeling unsure that accepting and embracing uncertainty will grow your emotional intelligence and allow the natural flow of life to unfold.
This is something I am personally discovering after becoming mentally tired of feeling like I have to have all my jigsaw pieces together already. 2020 has turned out pretty uncertain in itself, which has made us all feel hit in some way or another into feeling like actually we aren’t so in control after all of the physical aspects in our lives.
Thinking back, from a young age I never enjoyed cliffhangers, I wanted to know what would happen next right away, I didn’t enjoy surprises so much either when I come to think of it, I have always liked to be sure of things as much as I possibly could. Adulthood didn’t turn out too different in this thinking, I have always been looking forward to exciting possibilities striving to be in the know of what will come next for me in my life. I have always known that nothing is definite and things haven’t always gone as expected, but it has taken me up until this point in my life to fully embrace uncertainty and allow myself to feel excited about the unknown.
When nothing is certain – Everything is possible
– Margaret Drabble
How do you deal with uncertain thoughts of the future? Something that has helped me recently overcome thoughts of which path to take is the ability to allow. Allow what is meant for you to flow through you, without trying to overthink the outcome in a state of imagining different scenarios in your head. An example of this for myself is when I think of my purpose in life, I have feared living a life of no intent of purpose and have previously repeatedly created “ideas” of how my future may turn out. Ultimately, every time I become aware of these thoughts and let go of my thoughts of control remembering that nothing is certain.. I experience the raw precious moments in the here and now that can not be found in resistance. We will find our biggest anxieties in life in moments of resistance.
I am beginning to embrace the uncertainties in my own life and feel a huge weight lifted from my shoulders from doing so, I hope any readers of this post will feel a little lighter in knowing that its okay to be unsure.
What helps you with uncertainty? I would love to know your insight on this topic.
Wishing Health, Light & Love!
Katie x
Such an important post! Thank you for sharing this Katie.
Your writing on uncertainty really spoke to me. A couple of days ago I had a task to do along with the rest of my class. We had to write about a prevailing emotion and why we thought it was there. Most people said they were stressed and didn’t know how they were going to complete all their work. Others said they were just plain sad. I said I was struggling with uncertainty- for me it’s all about having control. Such an illusion really. I want to be in the driver’s seat and not a mere passenger on the journey to the rest of my life.. sometimes I forget it’s necessary to take breaks too.
Feelings of stress and sadness are much easier for me to release at this point. It’s kind of like “been there, done that.”
Just riding out a wave of emotion, nothing more. With uncertainty though, I’m still learning how to embrace it.
Thank you for reading, I am happy you connected with this personally and feel exactly this when you mentioned you wish to be the driver of your own journey. Uncertainties has led to the biggest transformation periods throughout my journey, sitting with it and embracing it is a beautiful thing! Have a wonderful day. Its so lovely to connect with you x
Same to you x